Through the window..

This window thing came out just on time when i wanted to feel nostalgic.Yes, the window of my room- my all time favourite, which i keep half open most of the times-
1)to feel the fresh air
2) to feel life as i remove the curtain
3)to feel being in Mumbai as i hear noise of a truck passing by and see vehicles speeding up at night or trailing down the Eastern express highway in a traffic jam.
4)To be giving attention(accidentally though!!) to the irritating marble cutting noises that the marble shop near our building produces at wee hours.
5)To remember good memories- all outings mean crossing the road, to take an auto.The road is clearly visible from the window.
6)To get back to " life on weekdays"(Read office office)-I cross the road everyday as the bus drop point is just so near and the window makes me connect to the reality of Mondays.. :-(
7)To think of Life.
8)To think of how it would be going away from Mumbai, leaving behind footprints of "just another visitor" to the city.
9) The La Italia Marble board -which helps me learn acceptance.The board is s boring yet stands there everyday, amongst the scenic background, and i have accepted it as part of the frame.Helps me realise that you have to accept things as they are.
10) The watchman's view-Another irritating thing i would like to get rid of.The watchman's window is just opposite our flat.As i look out, i see a watchman confined to a window, Peeping at our house, more of a spy than a watchman! Dont like it and have to put curtains on at times.But society security You know..!!
11) I just saw out and saw the bright yellow street light enlightening the path.So, the window lets me see light amidst darkness.
12)Huma - One of the boring malls(Read go and watch movie and come back..Too Boring to hang out)Huma is visible from window.
Well, i guess the window story was not as boring as i am realising it might be!!

I must sleep now...:-(

My back aches from sitting long reading and writing blogs...But the magic has got on me...I need to write more...One more writeup and then i will sleep..

Contrasts..

Spontaneity at time of happiness:

I love you....I too...
Take care...U too...
I am doomed..I too...
Good luck..You too...
I gotta go...I too...
God bless you...You too...

Takes an instant more to feel the hurt and revert back in own words:
I hate You... I hate you...
U are a liar...See yourself...
I dont want to talk 2 you...You dont deserve to do that..
Shut up...You shut Up...
Get out...You get out...
Go to hell...You go to hell...


And we say that in anger, we speak without thinking first.. :-)
Rather we think much more than needed, and then respond with a target to hurt the other person at a higher degree than he/she hurt us..

There are no "toos" here as in above cases as anger kills the entire concept of togetherness, so the toos go missing.Point My lord!

The art called writing..

I have spent almost 4 hours scrolling through some amazingly great blogs, thanks to my teammate Anu for it was her blog i started with and to her followers later on. I remembered she told me to check out her blog as she had written something new.As always,i asked her blog link and sometime later, read her recent posts.I was delighted to read her post where she has used great imaginations to create great situations out of images that flash by while she travels to home everyday.A very mature and beautiful post indeed.Something of the sort i will call "exciting plot".After a while, i started reading one of her follower's blog, saw his photo gallery and his posts.Amazing talent.I wonder how much talent we have in our country.Recently, i heard about a group of people in my company who blog, sharing their posts as a community.This included people from entire heirarchy, a senior manager, a manager and so on. I really admire beauty of words and the way people put up their thoughts.It fascinates me to be having a chance to peep into new worlds, imagined and created by people, and inspires me to write.Writing is a good way to understand pyschology, to get an idea of mindsets, it touches the soul, by giving you a fair idea of a persona.The best way to relate with a person is his/her writing.Subtleness, expressiveness,witty writeups,detailing of small things in wonderful ways,too abstract topics, incidents, etc etc. give you a sneak peak at how the writer sees the world..
Dedicated to all the people,whose blogs gave me a chance to write this up...

Holy matrimony??

Marriages, they say are made in heaven.True indeed.Are they really solemnised on earth? A million dollar question.It is more of a question that one should find answer to before tying the nuptial knot.Speaking of making marriages work, my opinion is that a marriage should be a union of mindsets,visions and souls.United souls for me mean amalgamation of understanding of differences in attitude, weaknesses, negativities, positivities and tolerance of each other.If you talk of compromises, yes, living under same roof and nurturing each other's life with love, care and dedication requires a lot of patience and compromise.But compromise should never be a compromise rather it should be tagged as understanding of differences. When these differences start becoming compromises, love doesnt flourish, it sustains itself.And life is about evolution, besides sustenance.This sustenance becomes intolerable when both parties start counting the compromises they have been making and the wall of bonds and relationships develops a crack.

I guess you cannot sustain with a person who cant bring smile on your face, who doesnt let you be yourself atleast at some times when all you want is being yourself. Possessiveness is negative but can be overcome with time when flowers of trust start blooming in your life.
However, if you look around, you will find lot many marriages surviving, despite the cracks, surviving generations galore,but is the happiness still there? Are those people living for themselves? Yeah, i agree living for the other person is what a great marriage may imply but if that is by an obligation rather a will, you cannot call it a succesful one.Controlling urges, wishes and dreams to be in a world of responsibilities and obligations where every action brings a forced smile to your face, is not what your life is really meant for.I guess its easily said than done.Agreed.

I guess love should be free like a bird, flying high with sparkle in eyes to take on the world in its flight. A marriage should be an epitome of acceptance,acceptance of differences, but this has to be mutual because one sided acceptance will become compromise, which will turn the flourishing relation to a sustaining one.You should like the person's thinking and attitude and his/her ability to handle differences.If one is emotionally weak, the other must be a supporting pillar in unfavourable times.If one is introvert, other must be sensible enough to understand silence.If one is short tempered, other must be calm and composed to an extent that he/she can adjust to the temper.Besides, all these weaknesses, understanding is a must.Ego is a big no when it comes to marriage.You may be an egotist by attitude but when it comes to conflicts, shed that characteristic, if you really want to be happy.Coz being egotist with your reflection, your better half, is no good idea.Also,You must understand the person heart and soul.You should be knowing when it hurts.
Last but not least, never repeat mistakes.Shed tears,talk to people, but do not speak words in haste that may make you regret.Heart once broken can be mended, but hurting again and again creates deep wounds which cripple the love and care that you invest in relationship and ultimately, it breaks bitterly never to be brought together again.

On an ending note, would just say that its easy when you let things go.When tempers rise, when faith is shaken, when minor mistakes happen, be calm, forget everything for a while, try smiling and then think again about the problem.Conflicts happen, they always will.But when it starts going beyond boundary, stop and shut yourself.Think about the ceremonies which bound you together.Think about the chants of panditji, blessings of all, the words you swore in front of all, when you took blessings of your parents after you got officially married, your good times...And you will wonder that negativity has converted into bful memories...

Wondering whether it was me who wrote such detail about marraige..:)