Just felt like writing about a simple conversation which made me think what it is to life . While i and my roomate were having our dinner, we got a chance to talk to the cook in the guesthouse, somehow he shared out of the blue that he is married and his family is there in bihar.Maybe he was missing them, i observed his face and expression said so.Married since two years, he has just been to his home only for 4 months since then. My instantaneous thought was that it is unfair on part of his wife, to be managing alone without him, when the time is just right for her to see life, enjoy life and gather some moments to cherish upon later.She must be missing him, the thought of him being far would have made her feel jealous sometimes, of the people who are seeing him everyday, interacting with him, getting to spend time with him, his friends and coworkers, while she is counting days only to be hoping for his arrival. So, i asked him the question that bothered me, when i though about her, "why dont you bring your wife along? It is not fair to let her alone? " And his answer was simple, convincing, perfect and touching.He is quite innocent and told us that he has constructed a big house in bihar.His father has taken a lot of loan so he is working here, to repay the same.The way he told that he has done nothing in life except constructing a great house was very touching.I was grounded by honesty of his efforts to be the ideal son, the only son that he is of his parents.When we urged him to bring his wife along, he told that his parents deserve equal attention, so his wife will be with them till he returns.And he will return once he repays back the loan.He told me that he is confident that he will make up for the loan amount very soon, and he is very sure about it.With a great spirit of never giving up, he justified not bringing his wife along, by facts and figures which included accomodation costs, grocery costs etc. and said that he would prefer her spending this money on herself there rather than be wasted here in living together.His theory, but very innocent and true.When he exclaimed that only his presence was missing, rest he makes it sure that all her needs are catered of, was very touching. He believed that being the only son, he cant give up easily, and needs to equal up with the efforts of his father back home, in growing paddy and wheat.God forgiving that i felt he is, he set an example of satisfaction by proclaiming that god has given him all, but some struggles he needs to make and he will come out of all, successful.Great spirit and hats off to such attitude!!
And we crib about much pettier things in life, starting from a bad day at work to all sorts of weird things, Dont we?
So, whos the wiser winner, he or us? Probably we better know it in our hearts.
5 comments:
heyy Mansi..this was really somethin touching..so nice of u, being so observant nd sharing such exp..yes, the mssg u wanna giv is felt..its the story of huge population in r country, nd yes we all mst learn a lot from such kinda ppl..rlly hats off to them..!!!
Hey don't mind .. just an opinion and an argument being a male... It is the nature of concern and the duty and no one can step into each other's shoes. As a female cannot step into a male's shoe and similarly a male can't step into a female's because both are very different in biology as well as at reasoning constructs. Both have defined and different kind of duties in this world on their own parts. .. A caring thought arose for her wife about how she must be managing without her husband ? But, why not for that cook, how he must be managing without his wife ? Are males on this earth made only to take care of family and do demanding things for their family's survival ? Are they here only to make the wives comfortable, clear the debts and raise children ?
@animesh...Nothing offending..well, for ur question...Arose and i saw on his face the dedication i waanted to see,so i felt great for his desicion n thats y this post..and it was "his" wife..not "her"..Lol(i know it was a typo bt cant help it..lol)
Yup a little typo of-course a common thing out of my typing ... Well, you know Mansi there is nothing great about his decision, it is his "Helplessness" that he has to do what he is doing and where. It is pitiful he is devoid of home and family. It is more of a compromise rather than a thoughtful and willing decision ... But, why am I arguing when I can't do anything for him ... He he he he he he ... Arey bhai Aall izz Well, karna padta hai, duniya hai, hota hai, chalta hai, happy happy aaa happy happy jaa ... ye line mai patent karvane vala hun ... Survival of the fittest is rule of the world.
good idea I'll modify my blog's theme as well, ha ha ha ha ... bored of watching it all the same every time ..
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