Contrasts..

Spontaneity at time of happiness:

I love you....I too...
Take care...U too...
I am doomed..I too...
Good luck..You too...
I gotta go...I too...
God bless you...You too...

Takes an instant more to feel the hurt and revert back in own words:
I hate You... I hate you...
U are a liar...See yourself...
I dont want to talk 2 you...You dont deserve to do that..
Shut up...You shut Up...
Get out...You get out...
Go to hell...You go to hell...


And we say that in anger, we speak without thinking first.. :-)
Rather we think much more than needed, and then respond with a target to hurt the other person at a higher degree than he/she hurt us..

There are no "toos" here as in above cases as anger kills the entire concept of togetherness, so the toos go missing.Point My lord!

The art called writing..

I have spent almost 4 hours scrolling through some amazingly great blogs, thanks to my teammate Anu for it was her blog i started with and to her followers later on. I remembered she told me to check out her blog as she had written something new.As always,i asked her blog link and sometime later, read her recent posts.I was delighted to read her post where she has used great imaginations to create great situations out of images that flash by while she travels to home everyday.A very mature and beautiful post indeed.Something of the sort i will call "exciting plot".After a while, i started reading one of her follower's blog, saw his photo gallery and his posts.Amazing talent.I wonder how much talent we have in our country.Recently, i heard about a group of people in my company who blog, sharing their posts as a community.This included people from entire heirarchy, a senior manager, a manager and so on. I really admire beauty of words and the way people put up their thoughts.It fascinates me to be having a chance to peep into new worlds, imagined and created by people, and inspires me to write.Writing is a good way to understand pyschology, to get an idea of mindsets, it touches the soul, by giving you a fair idea of a persona.The best way to relate with a person is his/her writing.Subtleness, expressiveness,witty writeups,detailing of small things in wonderful ways,too abstract topics, incidents, etc etc. give you a sneak peak at how the writer sees the world..
Dedicated to all the people,whose blogs gave me a chance to write this up...

Holy matrimony??

Marriages, they say are made in heaven.True indeed.Are they really solemnised on earth? A million dollar question.It is more of a question that one should find answer to before tying the nuptial knot.Speaking of making marriages work, my opinion is that a marriage should be a union of mindsets,visions and souls.United souls for me mean amalgamation of understanding of differences in attitude, weaknesses, negativities, positivities and tolerance of each other.If you talk of compromises, yes, living under same roof and nurturing each other's life with love, care and dedication requires a lot of patience and compromise.But compromise should never be a compromise rather it should be tagged as understanding of differences. When these differences start becoming compromises, love doesnt flourish, it sustains itself.And life is about evolution, besides sustenance.This sustenance becomes intolerable when both parties start counting the compromises they have been making and the wall of bonds and relationships develops a crack.

I guess you cannot sustain with a person who cant bring smile on your face, who doesnt let you be yourself atleast at some times when all you want is being yourself. Possessiveness is negative but can be overcome with time when flowers of trust start blooming in your life.
However, if you look around, you will find lot many marriages surviving, despite the cracks, surviving generations galore,but is the happiness still there? Are those people living for themselves? Yeah, i agree living for the other person is what a great marriage may imply but if that is by an obligation rather a will, you cannot call it a succesful one.Controlling urges, wishes and dreams to be in a world of responsibilities and obligations where every action brings a forced smile to your face, is not what your life is really meant for.I guess its easily said than done.Agreed.

I guess love should be free like a bird, flying high with sparkle in eyes to take on the world in its flight. A marriage should be an epitome of acceptance,acceptance of differences, but this has to be mutual because one sided acceptance will become compromise, which will turn the flourishing relation to a sustaining one.You should like the person's thinking and attitude and his/her ability to handle differences.If one is emotionally weak, the other must be a supporting pillar in unfavourable times.If one is introvert, other must be sensible enough to understand silence.If one is short tempered, other must be calm and composed to an extent that he/she can adjust to the temper.Besides, all these weaknesses, understanding is a must.Ego is a big no when it comes to marriage.You may be an egotist by attitude but when it comes to conflicts, shed that characteristic, if you really want to be happy.Coz being egotist with your reflection, your better half, is no good idea.Also,You must understand the person heart and soul.You should be knowing when it hurts.
Last but not least, never repeat mistakes.Shed tears,talk to people, but do not speak words in haste that may make you regret.Heart once broken can be mended, but hurting again and again creates deep wounds which cripple the love and care that you invest in relationship and ultimately, it breaks bitterly never to be brought together again.

On an ending note, would just say that its easy when you let things go.When tempers rise, when faith is shaken, when minor mistakes happen, be calm, forget everything for a while, try smiling and then think again about the problem.Conflicts happen, they always will.But when it starts going beyond boundary, stop and shut yourself.Think about the ceremonies which bound you together.Think about the chants of panditji, blessings of all, the words you swore in front of all, when you took blessings of your parents after you got officially married, your good times...And you will wonder that negativity has converted into bful memories...

Wondering whether it was me who wrote such detail about marraige..:)

Its Diwali today!! The excitement that was visible in me when i left for home has faded by this time. Something is somehow amiss.The festival this year is not the same.I am not sad over anything in particluar neither i am too happy to be celebrating.Is it the growing unrest over my distorted interest in my job, or is it the hopelessness of not being able to move back home,now that m tired of living out,or is it a fact that things are not same?No idea.Just blank.I am not looking forward to anything big taking place in near future.There is no reason to be much happy for whats in store in few days.Work is boring, life is just okay and there are no miracles happening anymore.Getting used to be taking decisions on my own has been a tough task for me always.I think and think over opportunities and options and come back finally to where i was one day before .So, it kinda doesnt help me.Sometimes,I wonder what takes me back in taking bold desicions or even the smallest ones.Probably,lack of self confidence,fear of failure, pessimism,fear of losing hope or what?None of them.Something else, i dont know.Maybe god knows..:)
Anyways, at times, i find myself at extremes of emotion-sad, happy and gloomy.Typical cancerian,U know!!:)
When i am sad, m very sad, when i feel lonely, i feel so insecure and like crying and cribbbing,when i feel happy, i make others laugh.. :)
Anyways, that was me and by end of this post, my happy mood has regained momentum so i must move and see whats happening in house..
Silly me..:)

Festival Of Lights

The lamps are lit, the shops are decorated, there is a sweet smell of fresh sweets in the air, the people are in a hustle bustle with loads of gift wrapped packs of dry fruit and sweets to be delivered in a hurry.The view at night is all the more fascinating.The light of erathen lamps, light bulbs and ladian or chinese lights has belittled the darkness of amavasya.Its a big, bright night devoid of silence.The undending noise of the burning crackers is speaking loudly, the arrival of victory of Rama, the welcome ceremony of laxmi/dhan in households.The bells and chants are heard from every home.The crowd thronging the temple, laxmi-ganesh Pujan and the traidtional jalebi and milk doing the rounds is filling the air with sacred pride.We, the Indians,take pride in celebrating one of the most famous festivals of all times,Diwali!!
May every home be lighted today and may everybody have a smile on their face!!

O re manwa tu to bawra hai!!

Tu hi jane tu kya sochta hai bawre, jo barse sapne boond boond, naino ko moond ke..kaise me chalun , dekh na sakun, anjane raste, gunja sa hai koi ektaara....Rut hai ye dol pal ki ya rahegi sada, kise pata!!


How beautiful and meaningful.... Ohk, this is again a blog which glorifies the meaning of the amazing song from Wake up Sid, but it was worth giving it a shot!!
Ah..i will try not to bring up those stories of emotions again, try not promise.. :):)

Heart, man, dil, pagal...so many names of the beautiful relationship maker and breaker( Lol) Heart!! how beautiifully captured are the above lines, centered around the heart, the actions that one takes all dependent on what heart says. risk being that if things dont turn the way they should, u cant blame anybody else except u and ur heart ofcourse!! (Lol)

Yes, the context here is that even from the darkness of an uncertain future, not thinking of consequence,, people fall into love, to fall or rise for that matter, all credit/blame going to their desicions and ultimately to heart/mind(Read follow ur heart/mind) .
Often, when we think logically, we land up in safe investments, of time, love and effort.
But if we follow our hearts, we enter a risk Zone, shared by both you and the one you love, both subsiding fear of losing each other, ultimately coming up from fear which turns into a trust.Here, the workds depict the same feeling of fear, of walking in dark and capturing the light of love, confused as to whether the light is true or not...
Beautiful, isnt it..Now next time you hear the song, i bet you will find more meanings of the song!!

The good bad bye!!

The thought of this bye thing has been creeping in my mind since this evening.I have felt the " Bye syndrome" millions of times so finally decided to convert it into words.

So, so, so..Ever felt a tinge of pain and loneliness saying that Bye as a phone conversation ends with your dear ones..Ever felt a surge of momentarily sadness at putting down the receiver?Ever felt it difficult to speak those last words"Take care " as you end a lovely relationship? Ever felt a Strange sensation as a person u like a lot, departs to his own woven world, saying you "Bye , Stay in touch" ???If the answers are yes, you arent the stone hearted man/woman you think you are..:-)

Jokes apart, i just mean to capture that beautiful moment of realisation. realisation of a seperation, a detachment from what was on your mind and heart few minutes r years back, as the case maybe!!Dont know whether it happens with all or not, but happens a lot with me.I talk to my family often but at times, that "Bye" makes me feel nostalgic and lonely, makes me realise that i am far from them, i am not an active part of their world, or when talking to a friend after missing her a lot, that "Bye" makes me remember the times of bonding, or when in a difficult situation and turning upto friends for sympathy calls( read funny but true),the " bye" there makes me feel that howver close they can be, they can never fight in a way your inner strength can...Also, bidding farewell to people i know, makes me feel strange,detached and makes me realise that i will be building my survival mechanisms somewhere else, leaving behind memories, places, things and all......

Sounds hopeless, doesnt it..:)

But truth is that, emotions reside in every heart.Everybody feels the hurt.Everybody blooms with happiness at success and acheivement,.Everybody mourns the loss of something or someone dear.But, the intensity is different.The way energies are chanelised is different.The rescue operations, i.e. how to cope factor determines how strong or weak one is..
But they say, to each his own, so let it be..:)
Life is all about variety...Millions of people, trillions of emotions..:)
Bye take care